Welcome To Refuge For The Abused
We provide support to individuals who have been and are being abused and hurting, to help re-established and restore their lives. Our services are provided especially for abused women, however, we also help individuals who are inneed of our services. We want to help individuals to not only stand up, but to stand up and walk.
"She is sad! Isn't she?" Many individuals who have been abused mentally, physically, verbally, or otherwise are hurting and sad. Only God can restructure the individual's life to take away the pain.
The above picture demonstrates an abused, hurting person. You may be wondering why you don't see the physical marks or bruises, however, it is always the invisible marks and bruises that cause the most pain.
Most of the time an individual that is being abused does not show that bruise, even when it is visible. He/she will probably make up an excuse or a story to cover the shame, not wanting to let anyone know that he/she is living in an abusive relationship. Sometimes it's because of the threats from the abusing partner, sometimes it's just pure shame of allowing other people to know about the hell they are living in behind close doors.
Is this something to be ashamed of? No, but until you become the victim of an abusive relationship in any way, you will never be able to understand why a victim does what they do. There is a saying who feels it knows it. Many people believe they can understand what a victim is going through, however, one can never understand that in-dept pain that is not visible.
Abuse causes insecurity, insecurity creates an inability to move, this is why an individual who is being abused finds it difficult to remove from the abusive situation. It is not because he/she is reluctant to move, as we are often lead to believe, it is because insecurity restrict movement.
The invisible pain of an abused person is illustrated in this poem below:
The Pain
My throat is sore, pained within me
My tongue is heavy for lack of speech
Oh the pain that drenched my soul within me
If only someone could hear my unspoken voice
Oh the pain, the pain within me
I am clinging to the memories of the past
To find solace for the emptiness that lasts
I dare not look, I dare not move
I don't want to see, it's too painful for me
The numbness! Oh! The numbness, I don't want to feel it!
Please stop! No, no, the silence is deafening
Shh! Hush, hush, it's too much, just too much to bear
The invisible tears! Down in my belly, loud! loud!
So loud, yet no sound, this pain is too much to bear.
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